Its funny, when we become teenagers, we think our parents are out to get us when they tell us no when we want something. (Or so I've heard, I never wanted much, I was such a good child!) :) We think that life isn't fair when we are told no, especially when its something that we really want. Kids learn this real fast in life. Adriana is starting to notice things while we are out and about and LONGS for us to buy it for her. Luckily, she is still young and doesn't have a full blown tantrum when told no, but I know that age is coming. Its so hard, as a parent, to tell the person you love more than anything in the world, that "no, they can't have that". You can't buy your kids everything they want, even though you may want to. I think we have all seen what that does to a kid when they are used to getting whatever they want, whenever they want and the wrath when they are told no.
I say all that to say that Adriana is really in to Cinderella (or in the words of Adriana, Cin-rella). She can spot Cinderella a mile away! She get so excited and its so hard to tell her no, when she really wants something. I am thankful that she does good when told no, but it still breaks my heart. You would give your child the world if you could, but you also have to do whats best for them. They can't get whatever they want, because that's not the real world. We don't get whatever we want as adults and parents who give into their kids at every whim, are doing more harm then good to their child.
I don't know why I feel the need to write this blog, maybe Adriana and her siblings can read this in about 12 years and know that no matter how much we say no, it doesn't mean that we don't love them and it doesn't mean that we don't want to give it to them, but sometimes, no can be the best answer.
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You're such a good mom! We were at Target and saw a "Very Hungry Caterpillar" game, which Adon recognized, because we have the book at home. He was fixed and fascinated by what he saw on the shelf. He didn't accept my "No" easily. I was thinking this is the beginning of a new phase of training. My cousin wrote such a great post on her blog about the exact same thing. I'm sure God is using all of these things (both of your posts and my recent experiences) to encourage us to press on in training our children and to show us how much He loves us. Here's the link to my cousin's post. I think you'll be encouraged!
http://miller-schloss.xanga.com/707820366/sometimes-god-says-no/
Have a great day and continue to train Adriana unto the Lord!
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